‘Tobias’- God is good!

I woke up from a dream that we were having another baby boy… It was 330am on January 31, 2018. I went to the bathroom, grabbed a home pregnancy test, peed on it and then took a shower. As I was drying off, I glanced at the stick and saw two red lines.

I cried.

I cried not because I didn’t want it but because I wasn’t expecting it. If you have been regularly reading my blog and instagram posts, you might remember that we have always wanted another baby since Noah turned 3 years old and have always expected each month for a positive home pregnancy test result, but it never came. (Read previous post about pregnancy Jesus Forgot Us? )

And so we trusted God that He knows what He is doing and that His timing is always perfect. -but it did not feel like very good timing when we got the positive home pregnancy test and then two weeks later at the doctor’s, when she confirmed that there was a sac but no little embryo yet, up to the point when we found out another two weeks later that yes, a baby is growing inside of me!

While the good news was very much welcomed, it was unplanned and we felt came at the wrong time as I was doing 2 regular shows that just started… but who are we to question God’s plan?

What a wonderful opportunity to learn to trust God that He is always right, that His timing is always perfect and that He will provide and strengthen us through this wonderful miracle. What a wonderful gift God is allowing us to have and experience. And we know whatever happens, God is in control and this God who is in control is a good good God, a good Father, who knows what we need and what is best for us.

Our new baby boy, Lord willing is due to arrive this September and we are naming him Tobias Nolan. Nolan means ‘Champion‘ and Tobias means ‘God is good‘ because He is!

It is our prayer that God will keep Tobias in His presence all the days of his life and that he will be a Champion, victoriously conquering all things that will come his way with God who will surely strengthen him. That his life will always declare the goodness of God and bring Him glory in everything he will do and say.

Are you going through something now that feels as if God has forgotten you and has not taken your situation into consideration? Instead of questioning, seek Him through His Word, trust that He loves you and knows what is best for you, take encouragement in these promises:

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a bright future…” Jeremiah 29:11

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you, He will never leave you or forsake you.” Deutronomy 31:6

“Cast all your concerns on Him for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

When you feel forgotten or forsaken, lift your eyes, hands and heart to God and our good God promised that those who truly seek Him, will find Him.

Overcoming Hormones

If you notice, the last post I posted on this blog except for the one yesterday about the Breastpump Giveaway was last December! December!

And as I write this, all I want to do is go back to bed, lie down in front of the TV and do nothing! I feel so lazy, so exhausted even though I just woke up. And I’ve been feeling like this since I was 5 weeks pregnant. So I should just go back to bed right? I have an excuse, afterall I’m pregnant! My body is making a baby inside and that should be enough reason for me to be lazy and give in to that laziness, right?…

But you see ever since I found out I was pregnant again, I have also been more irritable, easily annoyed at Marco, at Noah and anybody I feel like being annoyed at. And most times for no reason at all! There were also moments when I simply feel sad.

Galatians 5: 22-23 says that the fruit of the Spirit is LOVE, JOY, Peace, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, faithfulnes, GENTLENESS and SELF-CONTROL.

So does being pregnant mean I lose the fruit the Holy Spirit gives? Can I really keep on using ‘it’s the hormones‘ excuse for my laziness, moodiness and kaartehan?

I decided it stops now. (O Lord help me!)

When you’re pregnant, hormones go crazy, it seems impossible to overcome it, but I know my God is greater and more powerful than any hormonal changes my body is going through and as Philippians 4:13 says, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Being lazy included me neglecting to spend time with my creator. My prayer time became rushed and there were days when I don’t even read the Bible at all- and I guess this answers why I’m so easily annoyed and why I feel sad- it’s because I have been disconnected to my God. He is my joy afterall and my soul longs for Him. So when I don’t spend time with Him, I lose that joy and that causes me to do and feel all sorts of crazy.

If you have been feeling the same way I have, it’s time to get on our knees and PRAY! Pray that God keeps us and not cast us away from His presence. Pray that God will strengthen us and give us the desire to know Him more by reading His Word.

The Bible says that we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us- even us busy mamas and pregnant mamas. We don’t stop being warriors of God just because we are mothers. The battle goes on and God’s grace will always be sufficient for us to do what God has called us to do.

“We can overcome hormones and anything else that tries to get us away from God through Him who is our strength”

More than ever, we as mothers need to be rooted in God’s Word and make God our priority. Not our children- but God. Because only by doing that can we hope to be the best moms we can be for our kids.

If you have beem feeling the same way, let me know and let us encourage one another by praying for each other. Leave your thoughts and name on the comments section and I would love to pray for you.

Slow down O Happy Days…

December is here again!

How time truly flies by And yet why are we still so impatient, so easily bored? Like my son, Noah here in the photo (or maybe he’s just bored waiting for us to finish kissing sorry noah, mommy and daddy will kiss forever!)

Back to all the rush and excitement and yet being bored and impatient.. This Season is rushing by so fast I tell you, it’s almost December 2 and before you know it, it’s 2018 and then it’s Christmas again! There are Christmas parties and celebrations left and right, that Christmas gift list you need to finish, the shopping, the deadlines, etc etc etc… and before we know it, we’re too tired to even enjoy our Christmas day… so let us focus not on the gifts, the parties, the traffic, the ‘gastos’ or the food.. Instead,

focus on the One reason this season is all about. “JESUS”.

Use this time to teach our children and to remind ourselves to find the the joy in waiting, to be thankful, to forgive and receive forgiveness, to stop and not to rush… (except to rush to Jesus)

Enjoy this time and remember what God has done for us, what an amazing gift God has given all of us through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour!

Oh Happy Day! When Jesus was born on Christmas Day!

24 days before Christmas! Happy December from The Alcaraz

Photo by Joshua De Guzman @littlejphoto

Trick or Treat? Yes or No?

Should Christians participate in or celebrate Halloween?
(I first posted this 2 years ago, but the message is still true for me)


Noah’s school informed us that this week is Halloween Celebration week and their lessons will include teaching the children all about Halloween and there will be a party on Friday where the kids will have to dress up and do trick or treats. I even bought chocolates earlier to bring to school and asked Noah what he wanted to dress up in, but he started to cry and said he didn’t want to (I feel that this is one way of God telling me something) Before God took the veil off my eyes, no alarm bells rang off and I did not see anything wrong with Halloween. But now I’m not so sure, after all Halloween celebrates ghosts, witches, etc.

Now you might say ‘But what harm could it do’ and that I’m being a killjoy and taking this too seriously.. But I have to take this seriously! After all Jesus took me seriously when He died and suffered for me, for us! So in everything I do, I want to please Him and give Him glory.

For now, I will continue to study God’s Word and find out God’s say in all this. The plan for now- if I will allow Noah to wear a costume, I won’t dress him up in anything that would glorify the devil. I’ll dress up him up in something good. If Noah doesn’t want to- I simply won’t force him. I will also talk to Noah’s teacher and find out what lessons they will be teaching the kids and tell her about Noah’s fears. When I give out treats, i’ll stick little Bible verses on them and use the occasion to share the Love of God to the kids and their parents.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. -Romans 12:2 NIV

To all my Christian brothers and sisters, especially Christian parents, what is your stand on this? If you could provide scriptures that would be great!

Here are some of the comments I got from friends when I first posted it. Let me know what you think.

No days off.

What’s your daily schedule like?

As mommies, our list of things to do are endless… we are always the first one to wake up- to prepare breakfast, baons, uniforms, etc and we are usually always the last one to settle down in bed. There’s kids to take care of, feed, bathe, put to bed, cuddle, there’s the pile of laundry, the dogs to feed and groom, a house to clean, meals to cook, groceries to do, a husband to take care of and so on and if you’re also working mom like me, I’m sure that you are most likely exhausted at the end of the day. And by weekend, you feel like screaming and just want to run away… But you don’t because you’re a mother and we don’t give up on our kids, on our families and we go on no matter how we feel. But even mommies need time off, at least for a few hours or a even just a few minutes.

But is that really possible? When we don’t even seem to have time to comb our hair? Let me share with you how I relax and find a few precious mommy time to myself.

There’s really no secret to finding time, it’s all about making time and learning to organize and prioritize what is important.

  • Make a to do list. Be organize. Get your phones out and write down all the things that you need to do for the day. Order what needs to be done first. When you have a list, you can be more focused and you can be sure not to forget anything.
  • Seek God first. This is the top of the list. To seek God first in everything… and I assure you, you’ll be ready for whatever the day may bring. (Matthew 6:33) No matter what’s in your ‘To Do List’ or how many there are, always always spend time with God first, a few minutes to talk to Him or meditate in His Word will go a long way.
  • Teach your kids the importance of respecting time and space. We sometimes underestimate our children, but it may surprise you that they understand what you need and what you want them to do when you talk to them seriously and clearly. Tell them that you need a few minutes to yourself and give them something to do while you have your ‘mommy time’. If you are taking care of an infant, wait while they’re asleep to have your precious time to yourself. If you have toddlers, secure them in a safe playpen or room while you find time to relax.
  • Family Support. If your husband is with you, ask them to take care of the household for a few minutes. If you have a yaya or a relative with you, ask them to spare a few minutes of their time for you

There’s always a way, there’s always time, you just need to make room for it.

When I finally ‘make’ the time, this is what I do, I go to a quiet room in my house, it’s usually the guest bedroom, but sometimes to hide from Noah, ‘my secret place’ can be the closet, the bathroom, the balcony, even the car… I would ask God to take my mind off things that are not important, to take my worries and fears away and allow me to just spend time with Him. This is how I relax, I light up a lamp (my Lampe Berger) to help me feel more relaxed, I read God’s word or just listen to Worship Music and just worship Him through songs or listen to sermons and preachings in podcasts.

I listen to Worship Songs and Just ask GOd to be glorified in all that I do. TO worship Him every minute of every day.

Lampe Berger cleans and purifies the air around my home while providing long lasting and relaxing fragrance. Today I used Summer Rain which is quickly becoming a favorite, because my room just smells so fresh and clean.

To know more about Lampe Berger, please read my previous post about it. Click Here.

And just 20 minutes in my ‘mommy time’, as I covered my lamp… I hear a knock…

Oh My Noah! Well cuddle time is also one way to relax!

Whatever it is you decide to do with your mommy time, make sure you do it because you have to, remember a happy, relax mom makes a happy home. Mommies may not have any days off but we can definitely have some mommy time every day.

How do you make time for yourself? And what do you do to relax? Please share them with me and my readers in the comments section! Thank you!

Not Fairy Tales

Have you ever heard the story of Noah’s Ark? Joseph the Dreamer? David and Goliath? Samson and Delilah? Gideon? Esther? Ruth? Daniel and the Lions? And Noah’s current favorite: Jonah and the Big Fish.

Oh I love Bible stories, and unlike Cinderella or other fairy tales, these stories actually happened!

Can you imagine the Red Sea Parting? Or Jonah inside the Big Fish for 3 days? Seems Impossible right? But you see with God nothing is impossible.

Earlier at church, our pastor shared how in all of these stories, God’s ways always seems impossible and difficult to understand. For example, the story of Gideon (Judges 6) you have to read it! (More exciting than any action film around!) Gideon was the least in the weakest clan of Israel, yet God chose him to save Israel from the Midianites. Fast forward, Gideon set off with 32,000 men but God told him to bring only 300 men to battle against Thousands of men (thick as locust) which means too many to count! Imagine 300 against whattt??? And yet God delivered the Midianites, Amalekites and the rest of the other armies into Israel’s hands through the weak Gideon and his 300 men! Amazing right?

In human’s understanding, that would have seemed impossible. There seems to be a better plan and yet God shows us through these stories that His plan even if it seems impossible is still better than Man’s plan. And He does it so that we can see that it is only through Him that we can conquer anything and not through our own strength or abilities.

So whatever you are going through now, however difficult remember trust in God. Follow His ways and His plans, they seem hard but trust that it is the best and you will come out victorious if you do it God’s Way.

God does whatever He pleases. But trust that whatever He does will be good because He is a Good God!

Hallelujah!

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways ,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9

Trust in Him today. Let Him come to your rescue and surrender all your plans. Repent. Believe and allow God to transform your life today.

Originally Posted October 2015

Jesus forgot us?

Right on time. Just as expected. “Hello Period!” Sorry to be TMI but I promise, this is worth sharing…

I had to tell Noah, not because he’s interested in the female monthly cycle at 4 years old, but because he has been praying oh so consistently to God to put two babies in mommy’s tummy. So excited in fact that he kept asking which month they were going to come out and he kept checking if my tummy was getting bigger every day (it does, but not because of babies but because of those darn salted egg potato chips 🙈) 

Mommy: Noah, mommy’s on her period, that means no babies in my tummy.

Noah: (really sad) No babies? Jesus forgot us?

What an honest reaction from my 4 year old! He immediately assumed that just because God did not answer his prayer, that Jesus forgot about him already… How many of us feel the same way when God does not answer our prayers the way we want? We think and feel that God doesn’t listen or he doesn’t love us enough?

If you do like most of us, let me share with you what I told noah.

Mommy: “No anak, ofcourse Jesus did not forget us. He just knows what’s best for us and maybe He wants us to learn to be patient and to wait for His perfect time. His timing is always perfect you know.”

(Noah being the 4 year old smart boy that he is, answered…)

Noah: is that 2pm mommy? (God’s perfect time daw?) 🙄

Let us wait patiently for the Lord, not just for the answers to our prayers but for Him. Whatever it is we desire or ask for in prayer, nothing will give us more joy than getting God Himself. To experience His love. He is the ultimate reward.

I do desire more babies after Noah, but I want God more than that and I will trust that He truly knows what we need and what’s best for us. So however He answers our prayers, trust in Him, continue to seek Him, to pray to Him, to know more about Him so we can truly see that Our God is a good Father! He knows what we need even before we ask Him.
When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:3 NIV

And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it. “If you love me, keep my commands. John 14:13-15 NIV

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12 NIV

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 NIV